Some women find the perfect gentle men to be the type to open doors, make compliments, be the bread winner, and fulfill her every request. To many women that I know personally, this is the perfect man. Ive dated guys with these qualities and found them far from interesting, I like a challenge. Anyway, lets focus on the issue at hand. Many women find this perfect man to also hold the quality of being tough, willing and able to take a punch from a woman he has verbally offended. This message is often thrown out in tons of movies. A guy might hit on a woman in an offensive way and she will reply with a slap in the face. This slap is seen very innocently to most people, however, some men, will jump right back and slap the women that same instance. I even catch myself saying, "well, hes a man, its different". Its not, the old saying "two wrongs don't make a right", and "an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind" applies in these situation. Its not right for the man to make the derogatory comment but, its even worse for the woman to use violence in return. Many women should realize that violence is never ok, even if it is used against a man. Men, even with their power an dominance, feel too. If it hurts for him to slap you, it sure hurts for you to slap him.
These images are somewhat shocking but, not as shocking as this next one.
This image, even in myself, sparks a different feeling then the previous ones. I am a lot more outraged by the last one than the other ones. Naturally I find the first to acceptable compared to the last one. Even though I can reason that all three are wrong, I feel trained to find the last one horrid. What do you think?
Mary, perhaps it's the size/strength/power difference between your two slaps that is at the heart of your question? In boxing (an example of acceptable hitting - to some!), they match the fighters by weight/size.
ReplyDeleteA woman's slap is often the hardest she will physically engage a man. And it is a response to a different type of power differetial.
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